In our
struggle to overcome our OCD and our other emotional wounds, we all need a
friend to lean on. To trust. For support. To help us with our challenges.
There is
nothing shameful in asking and having support. Even a broken leg needs a crutch
to lean on.
A friend can
have all the intelligence in the world. But unless he (or she) has character, he
has nothing.
A friend
lives by the "Golden Rule" – treating others as he would like to be
treated – and not just talks about it. Though my favourite interpretation is
Taoism’s: "Treat his neighbour’s gain as his gain; his neighbour’s loss as
his loss.”
Though it’s
a tall order, a friend tries to practice selfless service like Albert
Schweitzer, Mother Theresa or Jesus Christ. And if he can be a
fraction of what these humanitarians practiced, he should be proud.
A friend
realizes that not helping another is just as bad as inflicting pain – he allows
someone’s pain to continue. And the only difference (if there is a difference)
is the severity of that pain.
A friend
sows love where there is hatred, faith where there is doubt, hope where there
is despair etc., etc. as one would ask by reciting the Prayer of St. Francis of
Assisi.
A friend
provides wisdom for a person’s pain, confusion, heartaches.
A friend is
a role model by exalting courage, confronting his own fears, anxieties,
setbacks, heartaches which are often faced alone. And through perseverance, he
is victorious.
A friend
listens with a caring heart and does not pass judgment. A friend sympathizes with the hurting. A friend shows compassion. Compassion
literally means "to suffer together."
A friend
does not force his viewpoints in recovery, realizing the road to recovery is an
individual thing. One man's medicine is another man's poison.
A friend
does not use sarcasm in his tone of voice. It is hurtful. After all, sarcasm
comes from the Greek work “sarco”. It means to tear flesh.
A friend
has our best interest at heart, not his (without giving up his self respect).
A friend
does not try to change the person into himself. In the words of Tom Merton,
“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not
twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of
ourselves we find in them.”
A friend
cares.
A friend is
a rare gem!!
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